a person who believes that their tastes in a particular area are superior to those of other people.“a musical snob”
Recently, we saw the rise of a snobbish movement on the internet centered around ‘Natural Black Hair’. If you are not in it, then you are not confident enough to embrace your true self (black heritage). It’s amazing how they overuse the word ‘natural’ to boost their egos. I don’t understand why some black ladies with natural hair think ladies with relaxed hair have zero confidence.
Don’t get me wrong, the intention of the pioneers are good. Lately, some spiteful persons have chosen to hide under this umbrella to bash confident women who chose to wear their hair in another way to express their personalities. It’s personal! I cannot commit to wearing locs, afros and kinky twists. I’ll rather wear faux locs and Bantu knots occasionally.
Relaxers like anything else in the world if abused has negative effects, that’s why I process my hair with relaxers every six months, to unwind my coil pattern*. I like how I do not need to flat iron a lot and I can do a speedy roller set after washing. Natural hair does not give me that flexibility. Bottom line is I love the versatility of my relaxed hair.
* I will share photos of how I manage my hair in subsequent posts
Virgin hair sisters say relaxed sisters spend too much on relaxers. Yet some of them buy $400 wigs from China, this is both hypocritical and ridiculous. I relax twice yearly for $10 tops and I wear my relaxed hair 90% of the time. Compared to when I was natural I spent more money on protective hairstyles and rarely wore my natural hair.
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Some YouTubers wear wigs and simply claim fake natural hair growth, that shows the lengths many are willing to go to prove a lie. Please embrace what’s good for you and stop harassing women with relaxed hair. Confidence is finding your own path and knowing what works best for you.
No matter what you do in life seeking validation ruins everything. I don’t believe anyone will gain respect just by wearing their hair natural, life does not work that way. Learn from strong black women like Oprah Winfrey, Whoopie Goldberg, Maya Angelou and Mitchelle Obama. You gain respect by education, solid family system, being decent citizens and contributing to your society positively.
So stop the bashing and let’s focus on more important things and continue to build the black community in other positive ways.