The Natural Hair Controversy Amongst Black Women


noun: snob; plural noun: snobs
  1. a person who believes that their tastes in a particular area are superior to those of other people.
    “a musical snob”

Recently, we saw the rise of a snobbish movement on the internet centered around ‘Natural Black Hair’. If you are not in it, then you are not confident enough to embrace your true self (black heritage). It’s amazing how they overuse the word ‘natural’ to boost their egos. I don’t understand why some black ladies with natural hair think ladies with relaxed hair have zero confidence.

Don’t get me wrong, the intention of the pioneers are good. Lately, some spiteful persons have chosen to hide under this umbrella to bash confident women who chose to wear their hair in another way to express their personalities. It’s personal! I cannot commit to wearing locs, afros and kinky twists. I’ll rather wear faux locs and Bantu knots occasionally.




Relaxers like anything else in the world if abused has negative effects, that’s why I process my hair with relaxers every six months, to unwind my coil pattern*. I like how I do not need to flat iron a lot and I can do a speedy roller set after washing. Natural hair does not give me that flexibility. Bottom line is I love the versatility of my relaxed hair.

* I will share photos of how I manage my hair in subsequent posts

Virgin hair sisters say relaxed sisters spend too much on relaxers. Yet some of them buy $400 wigs from China, this is both hypocritical and ridiculous. I relax twice yearly for $10 tops and I wear my relaxed hair 90% of the time. Compared to when I was natural I spent more money on protective hairstyles and rarely wore my natural hair.


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Some YouTubers wear wigs and simply claim fake natural hair growth, that shows the lengths many are willing to go to prove a lie. Please embrace what’s good for you and stop harassing women with relaxed hair. Confidence is finding your own path and knowing what works best for you.

No matter what you do in life seeking validation ruins everything. I don’t believe anyone will gain respect just by wearing their hair natural, life does not work that way. Learn from strong black women like Oprah Winfrey, Whoopie Goldberg, Maya Angelou and Mitchelle Obama. You gain respect by education, solid family system, being decent citizens and contributing to your society positively.

So stop the bashing and let’s focus on more important things and continue to build the black community in other positive ways.


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Photo credit: Photo by Isaiah McClean on Unsplash


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  1. “Virgin hair sisters say relaxed sisters spend too much on relaxers. Yet some of them buy $400 wigs from China.” This right here is dripping with truth. What is the point of being natural and 90% of the time, no one knows what your own hair even looks like? We would be so much more powerful if we didn’t tear each other down.


    • “What is the point of being natural and 90% of the time, no one knows what your own hair even looks like?” Tell me about it! Isn’t that hypocrisy?

      Oh yes! Powerful will be an understatement if we stick together. I believe black women should focus on enriching their communities rather than fighting about their hair coil patterns.

      Excellent contribution!👌🏽
      Thanks. 🌸❤️


  2. 👏👏👏 I LOVE this post. I have natural hair too-had it since forever- but I still get annoyed when some ladies go all yada yada yada about natural hair and all the lengthy procedures of keeping it. Yes, its difficult to maintain, but i don’t like how some of them act like anyone else who doesn’t wear their hair natural is weak. Some women just don’t have the strength, and some have hair so thick I cant even begin to describe. Asking them to cope by all means is like telling a lady with dysmenorrhea to cope without pain relief just cos you have your flow painless. Ptchew.
    Nice post jare. 👍

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  3. I feel like I should get credit for being natural. I don’t wear “natural” styles. I just always press my hair out. “Natural” didn’t work for me and when I went to a natural stylist I felt like so much was hyped up, like charging me for a consultation first that didn’t provide me with any vital information.

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    • Mira, lately I found out that the persons who promote the ‘Black hair movement’ are those who profit from it. They are mostly brand ambassadors and owners who would run out of business if more black women went back to relaxing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m pro black enterprise, as long as it doesn’t involve deceiving the black community. Imagine that consultation nonsense, our hair isn’t a sickness or something that needs to be fixed.♥️

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      • See, I figured it had to be something like that. It’s sad. For example, I don’t know all the facts of this but think about who sells beauty supply products to black people. A lot of times, at least where I live, Asian Americans do. They know all this information about black hair and we don’t know it ourselves. It just makes you think.

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      • Oh no! The ones I’m talking about are on YouTube selling a curling pudding for $30. I wish black people will start running their own beauty supply stores.


      • You took the words out of my mouth. Do you know the psychology of stubborn people? When you negate their choices it only makes them more passionate about it, but when you let people be free to make their own choices they would consider yours. So the minute the natural hype started to die down I decided to be natural because I was no longer under pressure to do, and my psyche makes me feel that I am doing it on my own terms. 😊


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